The other day, I wrote about how liberating it is not to have an assumed end-point to your emotions. If you can push past the ‘I want to know them… biblically. I want to have them… monogamously.’ impulse, there are so many ways to know, have, own, use, find, connect to, experience another human being. [...]
Today, someone found a page of my blog by searching ‘why do crushes have to be sexual asexual curiosities’. I’m counting that as an anonymous question. And my first thought was that they don’t- squishes are an example of the way asexuals are re-inventing the crush, and I’ve seen it used in a load of [...]
“God has given you one face, and you make yourselves another” -Mysogynistic rant in Hamlet, III i. So while catching up on the blogs I lurk, I discovered S. E. Smith on feminism and make-up: Few feminist conversations confuse me as much as the one surrounding makeup and beauty standards, a reminder of my outsider [...]
I’ve told my mother I consider myself asexual three times. Each time, I was wracked with fear, trying to explain the inexplicable. Each time, I rooted the discussion in discussions of sexual orientation, making it perfectly clear that this was my version of orientation. I concisely explained what asexuality was and my relation to it- [...]
Major exams finished, and I promised myself I would write a happy-go-lucky post with lots of pictures of Neil Patrick Harris, claiming my vague theories about his character’s aromance (this won’t make much sense if you’ve not seen How I Met Your Mother) Yesterday night, my housemate laughed and laughed as she read out sections [...]
What’s this? An asexuality test? Now we can pinpoint with precise accuracy whether someone is a/romantic or a/sexual. Like, HALF the bandwidth of AVEN could be saved by this simple test! If only there weren’t these minor flaws in just a few of the questions: 1. Confuses sexual attraction and sexual activity. 2. Gives two options- [...]
(Still deep in exam time. A five-minute jotting down of thoughts:) There’s a term in the poly community called ‘compersion’. It means being happy that your partner is happy with someone else, like the opposite of jealousy. I think, had I queerplatonic relationships, I would comperse VERY easily. To the point of barely caring what [...]
[I'm on an enforced minimisation of blogging atm due to important exams. Also, the 101 project is taking up time. Naturally, this means I suddenly have more ideas I really want to blog than ever before.] This is my take on why hetero-aligned asexuals are queer: I’d be so screwed if I was hetero-aligned. Looking [...]
Wotcha, dudes and dudettes. Let’s talk about PERFORMATIVE GENDER. And performative sexuality. And how they’re often confusingly confused. And by talk, I mean squeal excitedly over this. And this. And this. Because they’re all utterly amazing. And the first two, the one I found this morning and the one I refound this morning say such [...]
